I recently had a conversation with someone – that started something like this … how much pornography is TOO much pornography?
So we talked about it – but I said – before we DO talk – you need to know 2 things …
1. It’s something that I am VERY passionate about. 2. I’m right.
That being said – ANY amount of pornography is TOO much pornography.
But what about … NOPE.
Well – when … NOPE.
Yeah – but … NOPE.
But I’m thinking about my wife when I look at it – NOPE.
But it’s just to get the job done – NOPE.
What are you going to do when the boys learn about masturbation in school? When they’re taught that it’s just normal.
Well – about that. The boys go to a school where that’s not taught as “normal”.
BUT – it got me thinking about it. What ARE we going to tell them?!
I was telling a friend about this conversation and she showed me a book she got for her kids.
GOOD PICTURES BAD PICTURES.
Yesterday we started it – a few chapters at a time. It’s got questions to go over at the end of each chapter AND it puts the whole pornography thing into words that tend to escape you as a parent – especially of young children.
We finished it today. It explains the attraction center of the brain – what happens when you get excited and why pornography tricks you into believing the lies it’s telling you.
A few weeks ago – we were scrolling through NETFLIX and we settled on Princess Diaries 2 (it’s been a long winter so far here – even though it’s just starting) ANYWAY – the movie starts and Fitzy (who I forget can read most anything now) says – MOM! Chris Pine is in this movie!! YOU LOVE HIM!!
So today – I had the opportunity to explain it in a way they might get AND teach a little lesson.
You guys know that I think Chris Pine is cute right?! Yes – we know. AND you know that I think daddy is cute too right?! Yes – we know.
And I love daddy and am IN love with daddy and married to daddy and committed to daddy. Yes – we know.
So – should I ever look at bad pictures of Chris Pine – or anyone for that matter? No – you shouldn’t.
What if Chris Pine and I were in a movie together and I needed to kiss him in the movie?! Because I think he’s super cute and kissing him might sound like a good idea. MOM! No – you shouldn’t. Because you’re married to daddy and you shouldn’t do things that can make your feeling brain take over your thinking brain.
Fitzy chimed in – AND it’s in the 10 commandments mom.
And I’m sitting here typing this – watching FRIENDS for the first time since I watched it in high school.
SEX. SEX. SEX. Just like Seinfeld. Just like Big Bang Theory. And I’ve never seen pornography and I know that FRIENDS isn’t pornography – but Joey was in one. And they watch it – cus that’s just normal. IT IS JUST NORMAL. And when Jared told me – on one of our first dates – that he had a pornography problem – I thought … doesn’t every guy? Isn’t that just normal?!
You know what – it might be normal. It might very well be normal across the board.
How much pornography is TOO much pornography? Any amount. There is no other answer. LET’S MAKE THIS THE NORMAL.